Avoid the Blues

“Nothing is impossible, the word itself says ‘I’m possible’!”
Audrey Hepburn


Last Monday was Blue Monday. We are told this was the most depressing day of the year. I marvelled at the effort many organisations went to so as to create awareness and to help employees through it. Such was frenzy surrounding this phenomenon that it was difficult to ignore.

I wondered if there was a science behind it. I soon learnt that a psychologist from Cardiff, Dr Arnall, using a formula he devised based on research data determined that the 3rd Monday of the year was the most depressing day of the year. While there is no scientific evidence to back-up this claim, many people believe it – after all our organisations, the media and every outlet we lend our ears to tell us it is blue Monday, so we believe it!

The same parallels can be drawn for our goals and aspirations. Challenges, circumstances, people including ourselves give us reasons why we cannot achieve our goals. We sometimes give ourselves a myriad of reasons why we can’t or why it is impossible to do. Next we begin to experience self-doubt. We question our ability to achieve our goals and reach our full potential.

My conclusion: If you tell yourself enough times, you will start to believe it whether it is true or not. So Why not tell yourself that you can? There are certainly just as many reasons “for” as there are “against” you achieving your goals and  your full potential. Tell yourself those “for” reasons as often as you need to until your subconscious believes it too. Surround yourself with positivity and great examples of success.

I leave you with this video someone shared with me last week. You are what you say you are. Believe.





Happy New Year!

It’s the start of a new year and like many I feel energised and ready to take on the world. Those that follow my blog may realise that I haven’t been blogging for many months. I started a new role leading a very challenging project and somehow never found the time to come up for air.

Having been forced up for air by the numerous bank holidays we have been afforded (God Save the Queen!), I have had time to take stock and evaluate things. 2016 had been very challenging for me in my career as well as personally. I was overwhelmed. With this came the tendency to take irrational steps and short-sighted decisions. My decision making process and reactions became impaired. Rather than calculated and deliberate responses, I became reactive and on edge. My performance was affected. Thankfully the end of the year brought some much needed respite. I was able to take stock and evaluate why some things had happened the way they did but more importantly what I needed to do to move forward.

As I thought about making new resolutions I realised that had I not taken the time to assess and evaluate I would most certainly have crashed and burned out in a matter of weeks. I so desperately needed that time away from work and everybody (well almost everyone – still had to be a mom and a wife, sister and daughter!) I figured my vision for the future had not changed and my goals still needed to be geared towards realising the vision. With that in mind I knew that in the pursuit of my goals and vision there will always be challenges. In dealing with these challenges our plans might change but ultimately the goals and vision remain the same. These challenges, if not addressed in a timely manner can overwhelm and derail you from achieving your goals.

So here’s my advice and what I have determined to do- In 2017, know when its time to stop and evaluate. Create a space for yourself  – you may need to take a couple of days off to adjust your strategy. Take yourself out of the thick of the situation and just breathe. Don’t get stuck in the rut. Recognise when you are at the end of your tether because it is time to start over. Don’t wait till the situation overwhelms you. Have a new year resolution as often as you need it throughout the year. Don’t wait till it falls apart or till it’s time for your mid-year reviews or year-end reviews. Once you get to a place where you are starting to sink it’s time to Stop! Assess! Recalibrate!